Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the LORD, and he shall save thee.
Deut. 32:35> It is mine to avenge; I will repay. In due time their foot will slip; their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon them.”
Rom.12:17> Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.
1 Pet.3:9> Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
Focus points: These verses summarize the core of Christian living. If we love someone the way Christ loves us, we will be willing to forgive. If we have experienced God’s grace, we will want to pass it on to others. And remember, grace is undeserved favor. By giving an enemy a drink, we’re not excusing his or her misdeeds. We’re recognizing them, and loving them in spite of their sins – Just as Christ did for us. In this day of constant lawsuits and incessant demands for legal rights Paul’s command sounds almost impossible. when someone hurts you deeply, instead of giving them what they deserves, Paul says to befriend them. Why does Paul tell us to forgive our enemies?
(1) Forgiveness may break a cycle of retaliation and lead to mutual reconciliation.
(2) It may make the enemy feel ashamed and change his or her ways.
(3) By contrast, repaying evil for evil hurts you just as much as it hurts your enemy. Even if your enemy never repents, forgiving him or her will free you of a heavy load of bitterness.
Forgiveness involves both attitudes and actions. If you find it difficult to feel forgiving toward someone who has hurt you, try responding with kind actions. If appropriate, tell this person that you would like to heal your relationship. Lend a helping hand. Send him or her a gift. Smile at him or her. Many times you will discover that right actions lead to right feelings.